There is no ‘right way’ to grieve, no rules about how somebody will feel, and how long it will take. Grief affects us in different ways. When we are bereaved, we are likely to feel waves of emotions as we come to terms with loss. These can include sadness, guilt, shock and anger. All are normal after a death.
The bereavement charity Cruse Bereavement Care has clear guidance (external link) on the best ways to help someone bereaved. Although it may be difficult – and it may seem to others that the grieving person doesn’t want to talk – it really is best for them to keep communicating in whatever way they can.
The Good Grief Trust (external link) and At A Loss (external link) provide support for wherever you live in London. You can also search for bereavement services in your area by finding out what your local council offers (external link).
There are also a range of helpful listening services available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week:
London’s digital wellbeing service, Good Thinking, has a helpful bereavement section (external link) on its website about loss and grief, including resources to help you cope with loss and support others who are grieving.
You can get further support from NHS-approved online resources. For example, to help build resilience and maintain good wellbeing, there’s a range of resources for everyone at Every Mind Matters (external link).
Whilst grief is a natural response to loss, some people may need additional, specialised support to help them to cope. Anyone who is feeling overwhelmed by their grief can call their local NHS urgent mental health helpline (external link). You can call for 24-hour advice and support for you, your child, your parent, or someone you care for - support is available for all ages.
If you do not require urgent support but are still concerned about your mental health, contacting your GP is a good place to start.
Finally, Thrive LDN has created a space called Help Yourself and Others (external link) to help share ideas and resources to help improve our wellbeing or to find out how to support others.
Remember: You are not alone, support is available.
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